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Terinspirasi dari yang sedang ribet mengurusi temu alumni.

Aku kemarin menemukan hal yang aneh terkait reunian. Entah cuma aku saja, atau banyak yang berpikir hal sama. Menurutku, ketika tinggal di sebuah kota, maka lebih tidak berminat diajak reunian di kota itu juga.

Dalam kasusku, karena tinggal dan bermukim di Jogja, aku malah jarang ikut reuni atau ketemuan baik acara teman SMA ataupun teman kuliah. Dan biasanya yang mengajak reunian memang mereka yang dari luar Jogja atau sekarang bekerja di luar Jogja.

Ya, Jogja memang ngangenin. Setiap sudut kota dan jalannya menyiratkan kenangan dan catatan. Tapi entah kenapa aku tidak berminat reunian di kota ini.

Mungkin karena sudah bosan. Toh tiap hari juga bisa kalo sekadar mau kulineran gudeg atau bakmi jawa. Atau mungkin karena malah jadi menyepelekan? Maksudku, tidak sedikit teman SMA atau teman kuliahku yang sama-sama tinggal di Jogja saat ini. Tapi ya juga tidak pernah berkumpul untuk event khusus. Menurutku sih ya toh di Jogja ini, dimana jarak dan waktu bukan kendala sebesar di ibukota. Kalau memang ingin ketemu tinggal buat janji atau datangi langsung ke rumah.

Atau mungkin hanya karena: rindu membutuhkan jarak ruang dan waktu.

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